{"id":31241,"date":"2024-03-24T12:11:21","date_gmt":"2024-03-24T16:11:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ldhr.org\/?p=31241"},"modified":"2024-08-12T10:17:43","modified_gmt":"2024-08-12T14:17:43","slug":"overcoming-fear-of-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ldhr.org\/zh_cn\/overcoming-fear-of-failure\/","title":{"rendered":"Overcoming Fear of Failure"},"content":{"rendered":"
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(Fran\u00e7ais ci-dessous<\/em>)<\/p>

Growing up as the oldest child in a very strict background, I had such great fear of failure or making mistakes, big or small. Whatever I did always had to be perfect!<\/p>

This naturally controlled all aspects of my life. I always wanted to be sure I understood the whole process and was confident I could do it well. Failing at anything was not an option.<\/strong> I was never satisfied with even my best efforts or those of others. Though it made me hardworking, it greatly hampered my ability to trust God with and beyond my capabilities. We cannot claim to trust God for what we know we can do.<\/p>

I had such great fear when I accepted the LDHR role for the then West Africa Area of Affairs because I knew nothing about LDHR. It felt like standing on a platform that would surely fall. Contrastingly, the then ATL was confident I could do the job if I put my mind to it; my husband held the same view. I had always known I would succeed if I put my mind to anything, but I was too afraid.<\/p>

And so began the journey of intentionally breaking the barrier of fear. I read LDHR materials. I asked my Global LDHR coaches questions. I learned from everyone in the office and prayed a lot for wisdom. My ATL was a constant teacher\/coach. During a particularly liberating Position Focus conversation with him, my Key Developmental Assignment was to find a midpoint for what I considered a perfect standard – in my work and personal life – and to learn to be comfortable with that. This was very difficult, but it helped me to develop a realistic self-expectation and taught me to appreciate my efforts and those of others.<\/p>

I failed in many ways (and I still do), but unlike before, failures are now learning opportunities.<\/strong> Really, failure is part of life! I no longer wait to be sure of a successful end. I have done many things with just a knowledge of the first few steps.<\/p>

I accepted the new LDHR Africa role without that earlier fear and instead had the assurance of growing and being better from the mistakes. Now, I pray for wisdom to rightly apply knowledge in all I do. I also have opportunities to nurture other leaders in their roles, just as I was nurtured. Simply sharing my story and helping them identify their fears and the next steps gives them hope.<\/p>

If you are like my previous version, you may be comfortable in one strategy, ministry location, or team. You may not accept unfamiliar challenges because you fear the unknown new experiences and outcomes. May I invite you to trust God for the next steps? Before God called you, He considered ALL your fears.<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Surmonter la peur de l’\u00e9chec<\/strong><\/h4>

Ayant grandi en tant qu’a\u00een\u00e9 dans un milieu tr\u00e8s strict, j’avais une telle peur de l’\u00e9chec ou de commettre des erreurs, petites ou grandes. Tout ce que je faisais devait toujours \u00eatre parfait !<\/p>

Cela a naturellement contr\u00f4l\u00e9 tous les aspects de ma vie. Je voulais toujours \u00eatre s\u00fbre de bien comprendre l’ensemble du processus et d’\u00eatre convaincue de pouvoir le faire correctement. L’\u00e9chec n’\u00e9tait pas une option.<\/strong> Je n’\u00e9tais jamais satisfaite de mes meilleurs efforts, ni de ceux des autres. Bien que cela m’ait rendu travailleur, cela a grandement entrav\u00e9 ma capacit\u00e9 \u00e0 faire confiance \u00e0 Dieu avec et au-del\u00e0 de mes capacit\u00e9s. En r\u00e9alit\u00e9, nous ne pouvons pas pr\u00e9tendre faire confiance \u00e0 Dieu pour ce que nous savons pouvoir faire.<\/p>

C’est avec une grande crainte que j’ai accept\u00e9 le r\u00f4le de DLRH pour la zone des affaires de l’Afrique de l’Ouest de l’\u00e9poque, car je ne connaissais rien au LDHR.<\/p>

J’avais l’impression de monter sur une plate-forme qui allait s\u00fbrement tomber. En revanche, l’ATL de l’\u00e9poque \u00e9tait persuad\u00e9 que je pouvais effectuer le travail si je m’y mettais ; mon mari \u00e9tait du m\u00eame avis. J’avais toujours su que je r\u00e9ussirais si je m’y mettais, mais j’avais trop peur.<\/p>

C’est ainsi qu’a commenc\u00e9 l’aventure qui consistait \u00e0 briser intentionnellement la barri\u00e8re de la peur. J’ai lu les documents du DLRH, j’ai pos\u00e9 des questions \u00e0 mes coachs du LDHR mondial, j’ai appris de tout le monde au bureau et j’ai beaucoup pri\u00e9 pour avoir de la sagesse. Mon ATL a \u00e9t\u00e9 un enseignant\/coach constant. Au cours d’un entretien particuli\u00e8rement lib\u00e9rateur avec lui, ma t\u00e2che principale en mati\u00e8re de d\u00e9veloppement a \u00e9t\u00e9 de trouver un point m\u00e9dian pour ce que je consid\u00e9rais comme la norme parfaite, dans mon travail et dans ma vie personnelle, et d’apprendre \u00e0 me sentir \u00e0 l’aise avec cela. Ce fut tr\u00e8s difficile, mais cela m’a aid\u00e9 \u00e0 d\u00e9velopper des attentes r\u00e9alistes vis-\u00e0-vis de moi-m\u00eame et m’a appris \u00e0 appr\u00e9cier mes efforts et ceux des autres.<\/p>

J’ai bien s\u00fbr \u00e9chou\u00e9 \u00e0 bien des \u00e9gards (et j’\u00e9choue encore), mais contrairement \u00e0 ce qui se passait auparavant, les \u00e9checs sont aujourd’hui des occasions d’apprendre.<\/strong> Vraiment, l’\u00e9chec fait partie de la vie ! Je n’attends plus d’\u00eatre s\u00fbr de r\u00e9ussir. J’ai fait beaucoup de choses en ne connaissant que les premi\u00e8res \u00e9tapes.<\/p>

En acceptant le r\u00f4le de la DLRH Afrique, je n’ai pas eu cette crainte, mais plut\u00f4t l’assurance de grandir et de m’am\u00e9liorer gr\u00e2ce \u00e0 mes erreurs. Aujourd’hui, je prie pour avoir la sagesse d’appliquer correctement les connaissances dans tout ce que je fais. J’ai maintenant l’occasion de soutenir d’autres leaders dans leur r\u00f4le, tout comme j’ai \u00e9t\u00e9 soutenue. Le simple fait de partager mon histoire, de les aider \u00e0 identifier leurs peurs et les prochaines \u00e9tapes leur donne de l’espoir.<\/p>

Si vous \u00eates comme l’ancienne version de moi, il se peut que vous soyez \u00e0 l’aise dans une strat\u00e9gie, un lieu de minist\u00e8re ou une \u00e9quipe et que vous n’acceptiez pas de relever le d\u00e9fi d’un d\u00e9fi inconnu parce que vous avez peur des nouvelles exp\u00e9riences et de leurs r\u00e9sultats. Permettez-moi de vous inviter \u00e0 faire confiance \u00e0 Dieu pour les prochaines \u00e9tapes. Avant de vous appeler, Dieu a pris en compte TOUTES vos craintes.<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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